I am a family of origin

I am a family of origin

Parenting towards adulthood

There’s one thing in common with every marriage course I’ve been to and every marriage book I’ve read. Somewhere at the beginning, they talk about your family of origin.

What kind of marriage did your parents have? How did they make decisions? How did they resolve conflict? My husband and I have been through the conversation numerous times, exploring how the family each of us grew up in has influenced the people we are today and the way we relate to each other in our marriage.

The conversation has always been about us, examining and critiquing our parents.

Then the perspective changed for me, big time. As our children have grown into young adults and have left home to begin their own marriage and build their own lives, I realised that I was now the family of origin.

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I Survived Being a Mother-of-the-Bride

I Survived Being a Mother-of-the-Bride

My eldest daughter got married last weekend. It was a wonderful day, with all of our closest friends and family, celebrating a beautiful couple as they declared their love for one another. All the plans came together and ran smoothly, the bride and her maids looked stunning, the groom was emotional, and I wore my shoes all day without getting blisters. Perfect.

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Are we There Yet?

Are we There Yet?

A Mother's Encouragement to Persevere 

"Are we there yet?" I’m not sure if you’ve ever heard it from your kids, but I heard it from mine, a lot. I moved from Yeppoon to go to uni and married a Brisbane boy. He was building a business and it was pretty clear pretty soon that if I wanted to spend more than a few days a year with my family I would have to learn to drive to Yeppoon with the kids by myself. And so I did. At least once and often twice a year I would pack up my 3 kids and hit the road. 700kms of road, each way. And so...

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