What to buy a minimalist for Christmas

What to buy a minimalist for Christmas

We love our friends. We love our family. The way they traditionally show that love at Christmas time is to buy presents. But for the minimalist, or even just a regular person with a house full of clutter they are trying to get under control, the idea of acquiring a whole lot more stuff doesn't feel like something to celebrate at all.

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I Am a Family of Origin

I Am a Family of Origin

Parenting towards adulthood

There’s one thing in common with every marriage course I’ve been to and every marriage book I’ve read. Somewhere at the beginning, they talk about your family of origin.

What kind of marriage did your parents have? How did they make decisions? How did they resolve conflict? My husband and I have been through the conversation numerous times, exploring how the family each of us grew up in has influenced the people we are today and the way we relate to each other in our marriage.

The conversation has always been about us, examining and critiquing our parents.

Then the perspective changed for me, big time. As our children have grown into young adults and have left home to begin their own marriage and build their own lives, I realised that I was now the family of origin.

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I Survived Being a Mother-of-the-Bride

I Survived Being a Mother-of-the-Bride

My eldest daughter got married last weekend. It was a wonderful day, with all of our closest friends and family, celebrating a beautiful couple as they declared their love for one another. All the plans came together and ran smoothly, the bride and her maids looked stunning, the groom was emotional, and I wore my shoes all day without getting blisters. Perfect.

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Are we There Yet?

Are we There Yet?

A Mother's Encouragement to Persevere 

"Are we there yet?" I’m not sure if you’ve ever heard it from your kids, but I heard it from mine, a lot. I moved from Yeppoon to go to uni and married a Brisbane boy. He was building a business and it was pretty clear pretty soon that if I wanted to spend more than a few days a year with my family I would have to learn to drive to Yeppoon with the kids by myself. And so I did. At least once and often twice a year I would pack up my 3 kids and hit the road. 700kms of road, each way. And so...

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The Secret to Enjoying Housework

The Secret to Enjoying Housework

I hate housework- always have. I had a messy bedroom as a child, and being clean and tidy has never come naturally or easily to me. I have had to work really hard to come to the place now where my home is almost always presentable, and rarely embarrassing. But, even though I’ve learned how to keep my house tidy, it’s been a genuinely difficult journey. Over the years I have learned how to do housework; recently, I’ve been learning how to enjoy it.

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My Perpetual Calendar Begins

My Perpetual Calendar Begins

2017 feels like the first day of the rest of my life. I know, cliche and true of every day, but very real for me right now.

Our family has been through so many season changes this year. Moving house, graduations from university and high school, saying goodbye to the car we’ve owned for fifteen years, and our middle child moving out of home just four days before Christmas. This all happened in the last three months, after the first half of the year being framed around the possibility of us moving overseas. While all of these milestones have been happy occasions, celebrating the achievements of our growing family, this year has left me a bit rattled. A lot has changed, and it’s changed permanently. There is no going back...

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Grandma's Legacy

Grandma's Legacy

I am lying on my bed in my new house, looking out the windows at some really tall trees behind the houses across the street, and it got me thinking about Grandparent’s Day. Last Sunday we celebrated Grandparent's Day in church. We had a bit of inter-generational fun with a mock game show, honoured the Grandparents by praying for them, and enjoyed morning tea with fruit cake and Arnott's biscuits. My own kids and parents weren’t there, and I no longer have living grandparents, so I spent the day busy with my usual Sunday responsibilities. Now, looking at the really tall trees, I reflect on the legacy of my own Grandparents, and...

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When I Thought We Were Leaving

When I Thought We Were Leaving

Recently my husband applied for a job overseas. It was one of those 'follow your heart' dream opportunities. After 7 weeks of planning to leave, just in case, it all fell through. The End.

Then it dawned on me. We’ve been living differently since we thought that we would be leaving soon. I can look back and see lessons that I have learned that I may not have learned any other way.

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