I love going into my day in a well put together outfit and a smile on my face, but often the truth is that under the calm, confident smile I am overwhelmed and stressed out. I pretend I’m completely under control, but I feel utterly inadequate a lot of the time. I feel the pressure to perform and impress.Read More
I spent a few minutes going through my wardrobe again this morning and reflected on how different this process is two years after I first decided to get rid of most of my clothes.
I used to own a wardrobe overflowing with clothes. After spending 13 years as a stay at home mum, I enjoyed buying proper clothes when I went back into the workforce. I shopped the sales and grabbed some great bargains – pretty much anything that was cheap that fit me. I didn’t put an awful lot of thought into it. Buying lots of cheap clothes seemed smart at the time.
Then I found myself with a wardrobe full of clothes and nothing that I felt like wearing.Read More
My Facebook feed and inbox are full of resources and reminders of how to kick goals and be more productive than ever this new year. There are planners to buy, courses to do, worksheets and printables to break the goals down into manageable pieces, all to help make this year my most successful ever.
I am usually a big New Year’s Resolution setter. I love having big goals and plans for how to achieve them. While I don't always achieve everything I set out to, usually my goals have helped me to produce more than I would have without them.
I’m not sure why, but this new year, things feel different.Read More
I’m sick, but not THAT sick.
I have a head cold. I did the right thing and had a sick day off work to rest and get well. That was on day 3. After a couple of days of taking things easy, I decided that the worst was over and re-emerged into my daily commitments, although at a reduced capacity. I was still sick, but not THAT sick.Read More
How to Persevere in the Wake of Failure
I’m a failure. I’ve let people down. I’ve tried my best, and it wasn’t good enough.
There have been a number of pastoral care situations at work lately where it just hasn’t gone well. Situations where people have come to me with needs, and have left disappointed. There are people who I tried to care for, tried to support, only to find out that they didn’t feel loved, didn’t feel supported, didn’t feel cared for, and it’s my fault.Read More
My eldest daughter got married last weekend. It was a wonderful day, with all of our closest friends and family, celebrating a beautiful couple as they declared their love for one another. All the plans came together and ran smoothly, the bride and her maids looked stunning, the groom was emotional, and I wore my shoes all day without getting blisters. Perfect.Read More
How I Use Gratitude to Defeat Stress
I haven’t been coping very well lately. There has just been too much to stress about: stuff going on at work, uncertainty around next year, changes with jobs for both my hubby and my son, not to mention my daughter’s wedding in two short weeks. It has just been all too much, and...Read More
You can't always judge success by the way you feel.
I’ve had a few crazy busy weeks with extra stuff on that has messed up my usual routine. For two weeks in a row I had events scheduled on Thursday evenings, which is when I usually attend my group fitness class. I go on Monday nights as well, but when I work out once a week I get too sore the next day, and it isn’t fun anymore, so I try to go at least twice a week.
My husband, on the other hand, is a runner...Read More
When good intentions meet real life
I’ve been following the Read Scripture Bible reading plan every day since the beginning of the year. It’s been great. Genesis is great reading, with dysfunctional families that make a season of Revenge seem boring. Exodus is full of excitement and miracles displaying God’s power. Then, we get to Leviticus. It’s been the downfall of many well-intentioned Bible readers before me, and for good reason. It’s a hard slog!
Many new year good intentions hit a Leviticus just a few short weeks in. The dreaming and planning is finished and it’s time to get things done. The inspiration of a new year full of possibilities and opportunities get us started enthusiastically and carry us for a while, and then we hit Leviticus...Read More
I’ve had enough. I don’t want to do this anymore. That’s it. I’m done. I give up.
It’s been a big year, and I’ve had enough. Enough suffering, pain and tragedy. Enough dishes, enough washing, enough grocery shopping. Enough packing and unpacking and sorting and decluttering. Enough of my kids exams and graduations and milestones. Enough driving in traffic and finding something healthy for lunch and deciding what to wear to work. I’m tired and I’ve had enough. I’ve had enough of Christmas already and I haven’t done one thing to prepare yet. I’m tired of everything and everyone and I want to quit...Read More
This week I turned 47. I’m not upset about getting older because I have a great life, full of people who love me, people to love, a job that is challenging and purposeful. I live in an incredibly beautiful part of the world and I have opportunities to enjoy it. I spent my birthday sitting on the balcony of our 15th floor holiday apartment looking out over a picturesque beach, a sparkling blue ocean, whales swimming by. The white sand littered with colourful beach umbrellas, children playing, young adults kicking footballs and tossing frisbees. It was absolutely perfect.
Okay, 47. Too old to get away with immature stupidity, too young to...Read More
We sold our house 10 days ago. Yay? It was a dream auction where there were plenty of people bidding and more than one family that really wanted to buy it. It was exciting and amazing. Everyone was smiling and shaking our hands. Then we signed the contract, everyone went home and left me sitting in my spotlessly clean, quiet house. It was all over in an hour. Done.
Then, reality hits. We have 30 days to find a rental and move. 29. 28. 27. By the end of the week...Read More
When things get overwhelming and I recognise that I’m not coping so well, there are things that I default to that aren’t necessarily very helpful. Some things I do distract me from being stressed for a time, but...Read More
Margins. The space around the page. The spare space for the fun stuff - the stickers and stamps, the love hearts, flowers and rainbows. The day dreams and doodles. It’s hard to find space for margins. You have to make it. You have to rule the margins before you put anything else on the page. Without intentional planning the margins don’t just fill up, they don’t even exist!Read More
I work in Pastoral Care. In my first year in the job, four families in our church tragically had children die. I discovered that year how hard it was for me to just walk in the background of the pain that was around me. It was exhausting! I knew that without proper self care I would not last long in a pastoral care role. One of the keys I have found was finding in myself the confidence to truly believe that God is really good.Read More
Self-care is a biblical principle that is God honouring. Selfishness is different to self care. Being the healthiest, strongest and best version of ourselves is what God desires for us. Here are 10 scriptures that build a biblical foundation for good self-care.Read More