The Mean Girl in my Head

The Mean Girl in my Head

Quieting the Voice of Self-Criticism

We are our own harshest critic. In fact, we are nastier to ourselves than we would ever be to others.

After my friend complimented me on what I was wearing one day, she commented, “I can’t wear t-shirts; they show my belly fat.” What? What belly fat? You have to understand, this lady is beautiful, she is not over-weight, and she always looks fantastic. And yet, she is always terribly self-critical. 

I’ve been reminded in several different ways lately how we are so much meaner to ourselves than we are to others. 

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My New Year Resolution: To be Unproductive

My New Year Resolution: To be Unproductive

My Facebook feed and inbox are full of resources and reminders of how to kick goals and be more productive than ever this new year. There are planners to buy, courses to do, worksheets and printables to break the goals down into manageable pieces, all to help make this year my most successful ever.

I am usually a big New Year’s Resolution setter. I love having big goals and plans for how to achieve them. While I don't always achieve everything I set out to, usually my goals have helped me to produce more than I would have without them.

I’m not sure why, but this new year, things feel different.

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Post-Holiday Debrief

Post-Holiday Debrief

The trip is all over. Done. We had an incredible time. All of the research and planning paid off, all of the destinations were wonderful, and we got to see something amazing every single day.

In London we saw the London Tower, including the Crown Jewels, Westminster Abbey and St Paul’s Cathedral, the national museum and portrait gallery. We happened to be there for

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My Secret Double Life

My Secret Double Life

The Challenge of Authentic Private Faith

I went to a funeral a few weeks ago. I didn’t know the gentleman well, and it has been many years since I have seen him, but there was something in me that wanted to be at the service celebrating his life. I go to funerals regularly for work. I don’t like them, and it’s rare for me to choose to go out of my way to attend the funeral of someone I barely know, but this one felt different. 

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My Monumental Minimalism Failure

My Monumental Minimalism Failure

Playing the honesty card here… coming clean with an absolute mess I made for myself recently. If you walk past me at church on Sunday, this probably isn’t the conversation topic I am most excited to bring up.

I had a relatively simple problem to solve: I needed new walking sandals for our trip to Europe in June. Have I told you I’m going to Europe in June? (Insert excited squeal.) This should be easy. This should not rate on the ‘difficult decisions to make in life’ scale. 

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The Secret to Enjoying Housework

The Secret to Enjoying Housework

I hate housework- always have. I had a messy bedroom as a child, and being clean and tidy has never come naturally or easily to me. I have had to work really hard to come to the place now where my home is almost always presentable, and rarely embarrassing. But, even though I’ve learned how to keep my house tidy, it’s been a genuinely difficult journey. Over the years I have learned how to do housework; recently, I’ve been learning how to enjoy it.

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A Birthday Reflection

A Birthday Reflection

This week I turned 47. I’m not upset about getting older because I have a great life, full of people who love me, people to love, a job that is challenging and purposeful. I live in an incredibly beautiful part of the world and I have opportunities to enjoy it. I spent my birthday sitting on the balcony of our 15th floor holiday apartment looking out over a picturesque beach, a sparkling blue ocean, whales swimming by. The white sand littered with colourful beach umbrellas, children playing, young adults kicking footballs and tossing frisbees. It was absolutely perfect.

Okay, 47. Too old to get away with immature stupidity, too young to...

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